How to Make it Last: A thought about a healthy relationship

Ever thought as to why it doesn't last? 

Here I am again, attempting to write random thought that just pop up from my brain. I wish I'm a good writer so I can convey my idea clearly but I got a messed up brain. (just laugh)

Some people nowadays find relationship as a status in social media. A way to create buzz especially to those who were in the entertainment industry. And as both enjoy the company of each other, they soon find themselves stranger to what they were doing. Well, each has a definition of relationship. it is just hard to commit in a long lasting relationship when somebody rush to be in it.

So here’s just my thought of how to find a good match and to make both relationship work.

1. Love yourself, you can never give what you don’t have and never played a game where all you’re cards are on the table… leave some to add mystery. 

2. Be happy with your life and to what you’re doing, have a self respect. Don’t just sleep with anything good-looking that comes your way. It’s lust and won’t last. You will just know you’re in the right track when you meet the one because the first thing is, he/she will get in the way of your little routine in life. If he’s worth it, you can consider it’s him.

3. Lower your pride and be honest in action and in words. learn to forgive, never hold a grudge, respect each others personal space and understand each others differences. Better set some ground rules in a relationship to prevent future misunderstanding. Never fail and make him doubt your love, always make him feel the best to you second to none.(family is a different story)

4. You can have sex with anyone you like but as they say, it’s more intimate and exciting with someone you love. The satisfaction and pleasure of sex comes when both have feelings for each other otherwise it’s just meaningless, a way for some release. But let not sex the only thing that keeps you both in a relationship. It’s understandable that both yearn for each others touch and alone time, but what about some intimate yet non-sexual activities…. try it.

5. Love Transcends. some says you get easy attracted to physical features of an individual then you lust and get attached. Keep in mind that if you get stuck to physical features of someone, move on. Sooner, that someone will get old, get wrinkles and gray hair. That leads you to find younger,… you don’t want someone cheats on you in the future? better settle with someone you’re willing to grow old and who has a mutual desire.

6. Don’t rush things for both of you, take time to get to know each other. learn and accept his/her flaws and so as your’s. these flaws might bring out the best in both of you. who knows. The more you spend time with him the more he/she become special to you.

7. Loving someone comes with other emotion such as hate,sadness, jealousy, and etc. if ever you get into break-ups, cheer up. though it may be hard for a time because of the memories you both shared, remember that if he’s not it then probably there’s a better one in the store. don’t mope. learn the art of moving on. Letting go of the past is a part of every relationship, but make sure you learn from the previous. 

Throwback and Flashback: Memories of the Old Philippines

Pictures create memories of the things that are only part of history. Here are some of the Pictures that depicts the beauty and the way of life of the Filipinos during the early 20th century.

1910. Tondo Beach

circa 1914. Flood in Manila

(circa 1899) Pasig River Showing a part of the Puente De Espana- Erected in 1875 to replace the earlier Puente Grande, the Puente de España had six spans of masonry and two central arches of iron. Capable of accommodating pedestrian and vehicular traffic, at that time consisting of horse or carabao drawn carts and carriages as well as a modern trolley system, the Tranvia, the Puente de España lasted until its subsequent replacement during the 1930’s with Juan Arellano’s Neo-Classical masterpiece, Jones Bridge.

(circa 1898) Corregidor Island, the entrance to Manila Bay -   The island came under Spanish sovereignty since May 19, 1570 when Miguel Lopez de Legazpi and his forces arrived in Manila Bay. Legazpi was authorized by the Spanish Crown to establish the capital of the Philippines in Manila, and convert the Muslims from Luzon and Mindanao to Christianity. Corregidor was used as a support site for the nine Spanish.

Circa 1905. Pasig River near the Customhouse

Circa 1900. A Scene of people taking a bath and Washing their clothes along the Pasig River.

circa 1899. Paranaque - A partial view of the town of Paranaque. The former Spanish Governor General of the Philippines, Camilo de Polavieja, used to reside on the house beside the church.

circa 1898. A view of Manila showing the semi-rustic bridge and the square-turret-shaped towers of Sto. Domingo Church

circa 1899. THE MARKET PLACE ALONG THE ESTERO IN THE CENTER OF MANILA- looks like a floating market.

circa 1912. Albay, Bicol - with Mayon Volcano at the Back

circa 1900. Native houses along the Pasig River.

credits to Pearl of the orient facebook page 

Ang magkakaparehong Tema ng Telenobelang Pilipino

Sa tuwing manonood ako ng mga drama sa Telebisyon tuwing gabi o maski sa hapon, napapansin ko na medyo "predictable" o madaling hulaan ang wakas ng kwento. Oo nga pala, dalawa lang ang pwedeng katapusan, mamamatay ang bida o mabubuhay siya pero syempre alam na kung ano ang mangyayari sa kontrabida, HINDI sya magwawagi.

May karaniwang anyo o pattern sa madaling sabi ang mga kwentong lumalabas sa telebisyon upang bigyan naman ng excitement ang mga manonood at mapahaba ang kwento at medyo inisa-isa ko ang sa tingin ko lang naman ay karaniwang takbo at nangyayari.

1. Ang Patay-Sindi pattern (Liwanag-Dilim-Liwanag)
    Napansin ko lang na sa tuwing magsisimula ang kwento, syempre masaya muna ang mga bida. Hindi magtatagal ay may kung anong mangyayari sa mga pangunahing tauhan at ang isa sa kanila ay magiging antagonista. Ang bida ay dadaan sa katakot-takot na pahirap ng antagonista. Pahihirapan siya ng husto hanggang sa may tutulong sa kanya upang maligtas. Magagapi nya ang kontrabida at tapos ang kwento. Diba ganun ang Esperanza at Mara Clara? eh yung Sana ay Ikaw na nga?.
    Minsan din ay magulo ang simula hanggang sa maayos ang lahat at sa bandang huli ay may lalabas na problema. Abangan ang sunod na kabanata. Ganito ang karaniwang takbo ng kwento nila kasi nga dapat makikita natin na sa bandang huli hindi nagtatagumpay ang masama sa mabuti at talagang nakakarelate ang mga kababayan dito.

2. Nasaan si Basilio blues
    Ito pa ang madalas sa mga kwento, nagkakawalaan ng anak ang mga pamilya o di kaya nagkakapalit dahil sa sakuna o nakatulog yung nanganganak o di kaya naman ay ninakaw, (Tayong Dalawa, Anakarenina, May Bukas Pa, Mara Clara, Esperanza, Muling Buksan ng Puso). Syempre lalaki ang nawawalang anak at malalaman nya ang katotohanan sa kanyang pagkato. Magsusumikap syang hanapin ang kanyang pamilya na nakakasalamuha nya lang pala, A small world Indeed!
    Karaniwan na ang mga nawawala at nagkakapalit sa kwento kaya minsan bago naman, nabuntis at iniwan ang nabuntis. Ang mga ganito naman ay karaniwang nagaganap sa tunay na buhay kaya medyo madali ding makarelate kumbaga.

3. The Cinderella Story
    Ang mga kwentong mala-Cinderella ay di naman nawawa sa Telenobela. Mga kwentong binihisan ng bago pero ganoon parin ang takbo, umiikot sa mga taong magpapaibig sa kanila at kukumpleto sa mga puso nilang nalulumbay dahil sila ay mga NBSB o NGSB. Karaniwan syempre ay mestiso ang gumaganap na prince charming para swak sa pagpapakilig sa madla.
    Hindi mawawala ang mga kontrabidang mang-aagaw sa ganitong kwento. Bakit di kasi nalang pabayaan silang mag-ibigan, kung hindi ang magulang na tutol sa mga taong nasa tamang edad na ay isang secretly inlove. Patunay lang siguro na minsan stiff ang competition lalo na kung mayaman, gwapo/maganda at matalino ang iyong iniirog.

4. The Agawan Blues o Love Triangle Issue
    Simula ng pumasok ang mga Asian nobela sa TV, napapadalas na mga kwentong may love triangle ang tema. Si A ay May gusto kay  B na gusto ni C na pwede ring si A at B ay gusto si C pero kailangan ni C mamila at ang dalawa ay magkaribal sa puso nya, magpapaligsahan ang dalawa hanggang sa tuluyang makuha ng isa si C. Eto ay medyo nakakakilig naman talaga kaya naimbento ang mga love team. Kaso dahil sa love team ay madaling mapredict kung sino ang magkakatuluyan sa huli. Diba?

    Sa apat na yan ay may isa dyan na kapansin-pansin sa mga palabas sa telebisyon. Pero hindi naman lahat sa mga nobela ay may ganoong takbo, may iilan sa pinilit umiba sa karaniwan kaso bibihira ang nagrerate kaya nawawala sa ere.
    Ang Telenobela ay solusyon sa bumabagsak na populasyon dahil sa dala nitong romansa sa isipan ng mga manonood. Pero ngayong madami na ang tao siguro dapat bago naman ang ihaing timpla. Magkaganoon pa man, hindi lang aliw ng mga palabas sa Telebisyon ang hatid nito sa tao kundi ang maaaring dulot nito sa kultura at pamumuhay ng tao dahil madalas sa minsan ay sinasalamin nito ang lipunan sa niromansang paraan.